They are closer than you might think!!!!!!
Up until now I have lived my entire life trying to get approval and recognition from other people, which meant that every time I had an idea I would immediately tell someone so I could get a little bit of approval. However, it never worked out that way, except a few times when I did get a little bit of recognition and approval. But regardless of the response the idea itself died there and then!
What I got most of the time was endless warnings, that the idea(s) would never work, that I would get hurt, that I would make a fool of myself (I’m sure you can add to it!)
So who are these people with ALL this amazing knowledge and wisdom??
Sadly they are the people closest to you, and NO they do NOT mean you any harm, nor do they think you stupid or naive. They are trying to look out for you to make you sure you do not face failure and disappointment! The important thing to remember, however, is that they are not you! They do not know what you think, what your desires are, and even if you told them, they probably wouldn’t understand, because they have their own issues to deal with and they may just still be in the victim phase where circumstance is to blame!! If you are still reading this, then obviously you have realised that you are no longer a victim and that you control your own life!
Let me just be clear about one thing before we move on:
Whoever your dream stealers are, be it your parents, brothers, sisters, family, lover or friend, I am not here to pass judgement on them and I am confident that you love them and that they love you.
My point is that, when you start to look for answers and look at life a little different than everybody else, they may just start to feel a little threatened and frightened.
I have experienced that with most of my family and also some of my friends
At that time I felt I had to constantly tell what I did all the time, partly because I was excited about what I had learned and discovered and partly because I wanted some approval!!!
How far did that get me?? Actually it made me go backwards and it made me question whether I should just stop learning and instead go with all the suggestions of my “dream stealers”.
Luckily I decided to carry on exploring who i am and carry on learning because it makes me happy! It makes me feel great about myself and because of that I look for outside approval less and less.
Anyway, the real point of this entry is simply this: Whatever you decide to learn, whatever idea you want to pursue, whatever choice you make in life; KEEP IT TO YOURSELF until you are in a position to show rather than tell. Trust me, the only approval you need is from YOU. When you go to bed excited about your idea and wake up the next morning eager to learn more and develop your idea further, all you need is your own approval!!! Tell no one, unless you are lucky enough to have someone in your life who you trust implicitly to give you a totally objective opinion.
So my rule is to tell no one about what I do, except you of course, but then again, I don’t know you and you don’t know me (or do you??????)